We often think of people who have self-esteem as people who feel good about themselves all the time and often thoughts of success run alongside this notion. In my view success and a tightly held notion of being happy all the time can be a compensation for real self-esteem. In my mind self-esteem is the deep acceptance of all the different parts of oneself. This includes the parts of ourselves we might think of as good and the parts we might not be so proud of. In this view self-esteem is the ability to accept ourselves and engage with all these different parts of ourselves with compassion and curiosity. And maybe a touch of gentle humor!