The most essential ingredient of love is connection. Whether we call it love or connection or friendliness in a couple relationship, it can take many forms – from caring words or gestures, to sexual sharing, to a feeling of being awakened to spiritual transcendence with another. Jonathon Gottman who has done extensive studies of couples has identified friendship and connection as the single most important factor that creates resilience for couples. It is this which is the glue for couples that manage to weather the inevitable conflicts of relationships. Thus it is worth watering and attending to this aspect of relationship in small ways each day to.