Taking responsibility for the things that trigger you

Most of us have things that trigger responses in us – or things that bother us. The response may more noticeable such as an angry reaction and acting out on the anger or it may be more subtle such as a disturbed and less open or loving state of mind. We tend to want to blame and try to change the circumstances that triggered the response rather than taking responsibility for our reactiveness and choosing to work through that. One way of taking responsibility for the things that trigger us is to recognize that any reactiveness indicates the presence of a complex. It is then more effective to work with the core pattern of emotions, memories, perceptions, and wishes that form the complex. When this work is done the triggers tend to lose their charge!