I have recently listened to the audiobook version of Esther Perel’s ‘The state of affairs’. I found it offers a compassionate, insightful, and balanced look at this all too painful situation that affects many couples. Her concern for helping all … Continue reading
Staying present, curiosity, acceptance, gentle humor, warmth and friendliness, and simple noticing without judgement are some of the most important tools to bring to your inner work.
Gradually, as you remain open and mindful, … your negativity will slowly be defused; you begin to feel well in your being, or as the French say, être bien dans sa peau (well in your own skin). From this comes … Continue reading
Familiarity and taking each other for granted can interfere with feeling and expressing love – especially sexually – in relationships. Seeing each other with fresh eyes can change this. Mindfulness practice can help us come into the present moment. Being … Continue reading
Our emotional states are sub-consciously linked to our thoughts. These thoughts can be so subtle and can come and go so quickly that we don’t even notice them. As a result they can be part of unconscious patterns. It is … Continue reading
This poem helps us see how awareness and personal responsibility are an important part of the change process. Autobiography in five chapters 1) I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I … Continue reading
