Self love is not the same as selfishness. It is exercising self care by making wise choices for ourselves and bringing warmth and friendliness to this self care. We love ourselves effectively when we organize our relationships, our diet, our … Continue reading
The current trend of listening to or following your heart – which essentially means get in touch with your feelings and use them to give you guidance when making a decision – may result in unwise decisions. This emphasis seems … Continue reading
When we notice our thinking and what it is going on about – whether it is angry aggressive thoughts or envious thoughts or mean thoughts or whatever it is – we bring kindness and warmth to this noticing. We bring … Continue reading
We all have a range of feelings including feelings that may be pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral. Many of us either escalate our feelings with thoughts and actions in response to a person or situation, or we distract ourselves from whatever … Continue reading
Staying present, curiosity, acceptance, gentle humor, warmth and friendliness, and simple noticing without judgement are some of the most important tools to bring to your inner work.
Gradually, as you remain open and mindful, … your negativity will slowly be defused; you begin to feel well in your being, or as the French say, être bien dans sa peau (well in your own skin). From this comes … Continue reading
Familiarity and taking each other for granted can interfere with feeling and expressing love – especially sexually – in relationships. Seeing each other with fresh eyes can change this. Mindfulness practice can help us come into the present moment. Being … Continue reading
Most of us – especially if we haven’t worked with mindfulness practices – find our minds slip easily and habitually into judgement. Judgments are any opinions we have about this or that. They may take the form of labeling, admiration, … Continue reading
Our emotional states are sub-consciously linked to our thoughts. These thoughts can be so subtle and can come and go so quickly that we don’t even notice them. As a result they can be part of unconscious patterns. It is … Continue reading
This poem helps us see how awareness and personal responsibility are an important part of the change process. Autobiography in five chapters 1) I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I … Continue reading
