I believe that intimate relationships are one of the most difficult, and – when going well – one of the most satisfying, aspects of being human.
Perhaps this is why I find working in this complex terrain particularly satisfying.
I work with couples primarily from an analytic, relational model informed by the Tavistock approach to couple work — thinking about the unconscious patterns each partner brings into the relationship, and the relationship itself as something with its own dynamic, shaped by both partners’ histories. We look at how each of you unconsciously casts the other, and yourself, in familiar roles — and where those roles come from.
Alongside this, I draw on more structured, practical approaches where they’re useful: Gottman Method (I’ve completed Levels 1 & 2), Sue Johnson’s Emotion Focused Therapy, and attachment-informed work drawing on Stan Tatkin and others. These give us concrete tools for communication and repair, held within the deeper relational work.
I work with:
- communication in relationships
- adjustment to changes in relationships
- couples preparing for marriage
- preparation for parenting
- parenting
- couples who feel they have grown apart
- dealing with infidelity
- managing conflict.
We work together to understand current patterns and systems existing in your relationship.
I recognise that each partner brings something to the dynamic of the relationship.
No one partner is ever ‘the problem’.
Together we help each partner recognise and take responsibility for what they are bringing.
