Self love is not the same as selfishness. It is exercising self care by making wise choices for ourselves and bringing warmth and friendliness to this self care. We love ourselves effectively when we organize our relationships, our diet, our … Continue reading
We all have a range of feelings including feelings that may be pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral. Many of us either escalate our feelings with thoughts and actions in response to a person or situation, or we distract ourselves from whatever … Continue reading
Staying present, curiosity, acceptance, gentle humor, warmth and friendliness, and simple noticing without judgement are some of the most important tools to bring to your inner work.
Gradually, as you remain open and mindful, … your negativity will slowly be defused; you begin to feel well in your being, or as the French say, être bien dans sa peau (well in your own skin). From this comes … Continue reading
Balance your mindfulness practice or meditation by placing 25 percent of your awareness on concentration, 25 percent on openness, 25 percent on making friends with yourself, and 25 percent on expectation. From The path is the goal by Chogyam Trungpa
Another way of looking at letting go of self-judgement is self-acceptance. Can I accept myself just as I am? With all my flaws and problems? This kind of radical self-acceptance along with the gentle intention to change creates a … Continue reading
Many people have a voice of self-judgement running an almost continuous commentary in their heads. If you are one of these people you might like to ask yourself what role this plays. A great deal of these people believe that … Continue reading
If your life is very full it is better to work with this practice for a minute (or three) two to four times a day rather than to try to do longer practices – which you may never find the … Continue reading
Many of us attempt to distract ourselves from uncomfortable emotions. Some of us distract ourselves from all emotions – even the pleasant ones we believe we seek! When we avoid emotions they tend to find a way out – whether … Continue reading
I am often asked about how to deal with anger. When we experience anger we generally want to ask ourselves: Is there something I am not comfortable with and I need to set a clear boundary with someone? And how … Continue reading
